Favoritism Issue Arises When Man Opts Out of Brother’s Wedding Due to Cheating Ex Being Invited, Family Takes Brother’s Side [Update]

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 16 hr. ago TheGramarNasi Update: AITA for Refusing to Pay for My Brother's Wedding After He Invited My Ex? (Part 2)
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    Okay, so I wanted to update everyone because things have escalated, and it's even crazier than I expected. After my last post, I thought maybe my family would come around to my way of thinking. Instead, they absolutely lost it! My brother called me crying, saying I'm ruining his happiness, and my parents have taken his side 100%.
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    In a fit of rage, I ended up posting screenshots of our conversations in our family group chat. You know, the ones where he called me "selfish" and "petty." Yeah, I regret that decision, but it felt like a "let's air this dirty laundry" moment. My extended family saw the texts and now half of them think I'm justified, while
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    the other half is calling ME the family villain.
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    To add fuel to the fire, my ex- girlfriend reached out to me directly. She said it's unfair that I'm acting like she's some monster when I should just be "mature" about the situation. I told her she would always be a reminder of my brother's betrayal and that I won't ever see her in a positive light. She then had the audacity to say my brother might
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    reconsider his whole wedding if I'm not there!
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    Now, my parents want us to have a family meeting to discuss this drama like we're some sort of reality TV show. I told them I'm not showing up if it's just going to be him whining while my ex is basking in it all. Call me dramatic, but this whole mess has made me feel like I'm in an episode of a soap opera.
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    So now I'm considering throwing some cash into the mix for an epic weekend getaway instead of funding his wedding. His wedding is becoming about my ex and not about him! Honestly, I feel justified in saying no. I'm still standing my ground, but part of me is genuinely worried this might tear my family apart.
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    Edit: I'm overwhelmed by all the replies, and I appreciate them all. I'm sorry if I'm unable to reply to them all, but I read every single one.
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    TheGramarNasi OP • 16h ago Just to clarify, I'm not trying to ruin my brother's happiness. It feels like everyone is more concerned about my ex's feelings than mine. I'm genuinely confused about why my life choices are being judged
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    when his choices directly impact me. I made reservations for a cruise and will be away during all the drama. Honestly, I think it's the best way to escape this mess!
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    OTOH I don't understand why is the ex's attendance to the brother's wedding is so much more important to your brother than your happiness. Y'know since you would've been paying for the wedding. But if the ex is so important, maybe tell
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    your brother to ask HER to pay for his wedding. That would definitely go down well lol. INFO: OP, What's the bride's stand in all of this?
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    ETA: According to one of OP's comment, yes the brother did sleep with OP's ex. Guess that clears up some of it.
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    Thorne-Lurker444 • 16h ago Well, looks like your family drama just went from a sitcom to a full-blown soap opera. Might as well grab some popcorn and enjoy the show.
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    Icy-Foundation-2... 16h ago NTA your ex is more important to your family then you ... Just move on with your life and stay away from their toxicity!
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    Kmia55 16h ago If the ex-GF had "changed" or had any integrity, she would be embarrassed to be part of the family drama and excuse herself from the invitation list.
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    Ask your parents in 5 years down the road whether they are going to cherish a relationship with an ex of yours that is with your brother's friend or cherish a relationship with their son. Same for your brother. Is his friend's new girlfriend going to matter to him more than
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    a relationship with his brother? This would be a no- brainer for most families. You are more than justified. I would go have my happy weekend knowing I dodged a bullet with the ex. NTA
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    camkats 16h ago Ok bottom line - if people want to get married they need to figure out how to pay for it themselves. It's ridiculous how many people expect others to underwrite. big bills like weddings, vacations and other expenses. NTA

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